What is self care? Why take the self care challenge?

 

As a writer with anxiety and depression, my work days usually fall into one of two categories: Extremely productive with lots of happy checkmarks on my to-do list or completely void of anything worth mentioning. Rarely do I come to the end of a day and look back at it as being “okay” or “not bad.” I’m either on top of a mountain with hands raised in victory or in the corner of a dank dungeon rocking back and forth. Nothing is ever in the middle for me. It’s exhausting.

 

Self care is something I thought I practiced, though I haven’t used the term self care before. I exercise, I sleep, I eat, I pray, I read. But I do these when I’m at the peak. I’m not sure rewarding myself after I’ve climbed the mountain and already feel darn good about myself is technically self care.

 

It’s also not self care when my healthy habits get flipped upside down on those dank dungeon days. I sleep to hide. I eat to avoid. I read to escape. Self sabotage is a better term for what I do.

 

So, what is self care? I don’t know yet…

self care

That’s why I’m partnering with Steve Austin from iamsteveaustin.com next week for the 7-Day Self Care Challenge. I want guidance with all my ups and downs and extremes. I would like to learn how to live more in the middle ground of my writing life and how to be okay with okay. I would like to learn how to step away from whatever crisis of identity I’m having on a given day and be good to myself no matter what is going on with my current book or article or blog post.

 

I’ve heard I should talk to and take care of myself like I would my daughter or a friend. I wouldn’t tell my daughter to give up and eat 4,000 calories of sugar, because that’s an easier way to live. I wouldn’t tell my best friend that she should shut down her brain and run away from what’s on her mind by crawling back into bed after breakfast. So, I should not tell myself these things either.

 

I’m excited to connect with some likeminded people on this FREE 7-day challenge to learn, to exchange tips, to commiserate, to encourage, and to take care of myself.

How Does the Self Care Challenge Work?

  • Each day, you’ll receive an email with a self-care challenge, including follow-up questions and a “Messy Grace Mantra”.
  • You’ll also have access to a closed Facebook group where you can connect with and encourage others who are doing the self care challenge, too. This is a great way to build community!
  • In short, you’ll have all the tools you need to make this challenge a success!

What’s in it for me?

  • ARE YOU TIRED OF FEELING OVERWHELMED?
  • ARE YOU DROWNING IN A SEA OF SHAME?
  • DOES IT SEEM IMPOSSIBLE TO TELL OTHERS “NO”?
  • ARE YOU STRUGGLING WITH ADDICTION?
  • DOES ANYONE ACTUALLY KNOW THE “REAL” YOU?
  • DOES ANXIETY WHISPER WHITE NOISE IN YOUR EAR?
  • IS THE BLACK DOG OF DEPRESSION NIPPING AT YOUR HEELS?

IF YOU ANSWERED “YES” TO ANY OF THE ABOVE QUESTIONS, THE 7-DAY SELF CARE CHALLENGE WILL give you tips and TRICKS TO TAKE BETTER CARE AND CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE. IF YOU DON’T TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF, NOBODY ELSE WILL!

Ready to start the challenge? Just click here!

Or go to jointheselfcarechallenge.com

Challenge Begins Monday 2/27/17!


(I’m receiving no compensation for this promotion.)

Photo by Alexander Mills

Freedom and fairytales and spam

Good day, my friends. It’s a beautiful snow day here in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. The kids have been traipsing in and out of the house all morning, overjoyed that school is closed. Our exchange student finally got to experience a significant snowfall for the first time! The snow came overnight. The midmorning sun is now shining that crisp brightness that causes snow to glisten and sparkle like a fairytale.

 

For some of you who subscribe to my blog, please accept my apology for spamming you with over a hundred emails last week. I attempted to move some of my older posts from public to private, and in doing so, I clicked something that made my blog think all those posts were newly published. That was bad because all newly published posts are automatically emailed to subscribers. Ugh. I knew what happened the second it happened, but there was no way to undo the deed. Some things in life can’t be undone! Sometimes the fairy dust malfunctions.

 

It’s funny that in trying to hide certain posts from view, I inadvertently drew more attention to them. That’s life, right? Sometimes, the more we try to hide faults, inadequacies, and past mistakes, the more we highlight them. Thankfully, all I wanted to conceal were snapshots of kids and boring personal tidbits from years ago – no political rants or naked selfies or anything.

 

If you’re still hanging on as a reader and subscriber, I thank you for not breaking off our writer/reader relationship!

 

I’m sad I lost some of my readers last week, but it’s okay. I haven’t been blogging much these days anyway. I’m writing a new book, so my creative juices have been flowing that direction.

 

I read a delightful e-book by Andi Cumbo-Floyd called Writing Day In and Day Out: Living a Practice of Words a couple of weeks ago (it’s free on Amazon!). She writes about her life of words, and her calm, focused, deliberate daily habits resonated with where I am right now. Her gorgeous writing style clicked with me too – some writers are storytellers, some writers are artists, and some writers are both – she’s both.

 

Given all of the inspiration I found to feed my soul, I was also able to pull from her book an extremely practical and helpful practice. She recommended an app/website called Freedom.to. Freedom blocks apps, websites, or the entire internet for prescribed periods of time on phones, computers, and other devices. You choose the device and sites you want to lock yourself out of. I set up a recurring session to block certain social media sites from dinnertime until midmorning. I also start a session whenever I work on my book. It’s quite liberating to know I am unable to hop over to Facebook or Instagram whenever the urge hits me.

 

Hope you can find freedom today, whether it’s in the snow, in a book, or with a new app. Maybe you will choose to spend this day noticing that your life is really a fairytale. I’m going to head outside now to enjoy some snow.


Photo by Alice Donovan Rouse

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