09 Feb “Beauty hurts” is a lie (or a teenager’s view of beauty)
“You aren’t beautiful because your friends tell you that you are.” E.J.L. age 14
What makes a person beautiful?
There is a movement going around on Instagram right now called “the #20beautifulwomen challenge.” For those of you not up on these newfangled social networking sites, Instagram is a mobile photo-sharing service. You are able to see the pictures posted by people you follow.
If you are nominated by someone on Instagram for the #20beautifulwomen challenge, from what I understand you post a picture of yourself that you consider beautiful and then “tag” (which means “notify” in social media lingo) 20 beautiful women you know to do the same. I think it started from a book called Twenty Beautiful Women by Saba Tekle, but I’m not really sure.
(The hashtag [#] makes a word searchable. For example, if I search for #sunset, I can find all the pictures others posted using #sunset in the description.)
Back to my question – What makes someone beautiful? How do you answer? Hair? Makeup? Weight? Smile? Eyes?
I was stunned to read what my 14-year-old daughter had to say on Instagram about beauty when a friend nominated her. She gave me her permission to use this on my blog. I corrected one misspelling and added spacing, but otherwise, this is unchanged.
I was nominated for the #20beautifulwomen challenge.
I tagged these people not because they should go post a pretty picture of themselves and tag other people to do the same, but because they are beautiful.
Feel free to do the #20beautifulwomen challenge, but just know that beauty isn’t makeup and clothes. The saying “beauty hurts” is wrong. Beauty isn’t staying with the current fashion trends. You aren’t beautiful because your friends tell you that you are.
Makeup and clothes and outfits and clear skin don’t make you beautiful. You make you beautiful.
YOU are beautiful. Not your makeup. Not your outfit. YOU. If someone tells you otherwise, it’s because they have the wrong idea about beauty.
You’re beautiful when you are shamelessly doing the chicken dance at a school dance.
You are beautiful when it is midsummer and you’re sweating like crazy and covered in dirt from being outside all day.
You are beautiful when you have a huge pimple in the middle of your forehead.
You are beautiful. If someone calls you ugly, they don’t know what beauty is.
If you’re tagged in this or if you just decided to read this, instead of challenging you to do the #20beautifulwomen challenge, I challenge you to go a day without wearing makeup. Go a day without worrying if your hair looks okay. Go a day just being your beautiful self, not how others tell you beauty should be.
You are beautiful.
EJL, age 14